Craving a bit of mystic healing in the midst of all this uncertainty? You’re not the only one…
Two Fridays ago, I was preparing to head over to a friend’s garden for a socially distant, government approved taco party. Having scooped my homemade pico de gallo into a tupperware box and dug out two extra jumpers for warmth, I grabbed my car keys and got ready to head out into the bright night – until it started pelting down with rain.
Accompanying the pounding of rain was a ping from my phone. ‘Rain check?’, my host friend wrote into the group chat. ‘Think the weather’s supposed to pick up on Sunday.’ And with that, the delicious food fiesta we’d been planning for weeks was no more. Finito. As I sat back on the sofa to continue watching Come Dine with Me re-runs, I couldn’t help but feel frustrated that I’ve been left with no choice but to surrender all control of my social life to the weather. I eyed up my ever-changing weather app, pining over some mystic sign that I would, for sure, be sitting out in the sun with my pals on Sunday.
And it turns out I’m not the only one. According to new research, there’s been a huge surge in British people seeking psychic advice in lockdown – with as many as 80% enlisting this help to see the future in a time where so many of our lives are clouded by uncertainty.
Of course, re-scheduled plans with friends are just the tip of the unpredictably sized ice-berg. Surveying those who have turned to psychics in lockdown, Psychic World found that 67% were seeking job advice and 74% were after some guidance in their love lives. Given the fact that a quarter of all UK employees are on furlough with little knowledge as to when, or if, they’ll be returning to work, the craving for some clarity regarding future job prospects makes sense.
And whether you’re single or coupled up, Covid’s cloud of uncertainty doesn’t discriminate who it casts its shadow over. With single people wondering when (or if) they’ll ever be touched by someone again and couples re-evaluating their living arrangements, the widespread curiosity as to what post-lockdown life will mean for singletons and those in relationships is understandable.
But with so much scepticism around psychics usually, I wanted to know why there is such a sudden increase in people seeking advice from the mystic realm. According to psychotherapist Anna Mathur, it’s all about the uncertainty we all feel in not knowing which aspects of our lives will go back to normal, and which will have changed forever.
‘The way that we live our lives has been turned upside down’, Mathur says. ‘From drastic changes to daily routines to job losses, there’s a huge amount of uncertainty.’
‘When you’re scared as a child, you go to your parent who can hug you and tell you everything is going to be fine’, Mathur continued. ‘But as adults, we don’t have that because no one can tell us what’s around the corner. Not even the scientists, immunologists, politicians or economists can predict how things will look in the next few months and years, so there’s even more fear over how peoples homes and lifestyles will be impacted. People are just looking for someone to tell them they’ll be okay – that they’ll still have their jobs, their family and health will be alright – it’s that need for reassurance.’
With google searches for the phrase ‘psychic predictions coronavirus’ surging by 250% in the last 90 days, Mathur agrees that this increase could be down to more willingness amongst people to seek out alternative answers. ‘Since the beginning of lockdown, there has been a massive increase in people attending church online that would never have gone physically’, she says. ‘We’re all seeking out coping mechanisms to give us a sense of hope. And because we’re without our normal routine, I think more of us are looking for hope in different places.’
The lack of regulation within this particular industry, however, could leave some people seeking for advice with more of a negative than a positive experience. ‘‘Because it’s an industry with so many different skill levels and kinds of practicing, it’s very difficult to regulate’, Mathur says. ‘There aren’t the strict ethical guidelines around them like there are for other practices like counselling and therapy, so it could be easier for more vulnerable people to be exploited.’
She continued, ‘Someone might tell you, ‘you will have a job’, but they may not say you’ll face five rejections or have to email 104 CVs out before you get there. It’s the lack of clarity and guidance as to how that thing may come to fruition which is dangerous. If it takes away someone’s agency to achieve that goal then it could be more unhelpful than helpful.’
For anyone feeling anxious and in need of extra support during this time, Mathur advises reviewing support networks. ‘Although friends can’t fix your job and mortgage concerns, it doesn’t mean they can’t support you through them emotionally’ Mathur continued, ‘Ask yourself if you need to be more open and honest with those friends who have been helpful and supportive in the past, so they can be there for you should something happen.’
Mathur added: ‘Gratitude is also very powerful. Instead of just thinking of all the ‘what ifs’ and all the fear and uncertainty, take some time to focus on the positive. Are you safe and healthy? Do you have a roof over your head? It doesn’t devalue the fear, but it brings some balance to it and helps turn your attention to what’s going right in your life.’
*Anna Mathur is a psychotherapist and bestselling author of ‘Mind over Mother’. She offers remote coaching sessions on anxiety, depression, stress, and low self-esteem. To find out more visit www.annamathur.com*
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